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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm OP. The saga goes on ...

Last Thursday I texted the friend I had seen in the street about 2 weeks earlier, and who had said it would be fun to get together for dinner, meaning the friend herself, her partner, me and DH.

Last Thursday's text was the third (!) I'd sent her asking if they wanted to go out for dinner with us at the weekend (last Friday or Saturday) and if so, I would book a table. Until then I had only received vague answers from her. 
She replied on Thursday night saying she still hadn't made up her mind about the weekend and she couldn't decide if she'd be in town or stay at her partner's place which is 1.5 hours away.
In her text she said DH and I should make alternative plans for the weekend and let's meet for coffee the following weekend.

I'm felt really irritated that it took me 3 (!) texts, for her to leave us waiting and to call it off at the last minute.
By the time I tried to book a table for just DH and me, our preferred time slots were all taken.

Why are people so indecisive? They are adults, not kids. Why can't they make a decision about something so simple? 
All this dilly dallying ... sometimes I want to give up on trying to socialize.[/quote]

It's not a "saga," you psycho. You're a bean-counting Desperado and she wants to be rid of you.[/quote]

So how do you explain the fact that she herself made a point of saying 'the four of us should get together for dinner soon'? She said it voluntarily.[/quote]

Because, like it or not, that's Polite Vague Talk that lots of people engage in. I have an aunt who lives near me; she has a neighbor who works at the same large employer that I do. I had lunch on campus once with this very nice older lady, and it was a pleasant experience. Now, when we bump into each other on campus, we say hello and if someone throws out a "we should have coffee sometime," it's just chitchat. If someone says, "We should have coffee next week--how's Tuesday for you?" that's a PLAN.

Or maybe she did genuinely want to have dinner as couples, but when she mentioned it to her husband, he said, "Hell no, I hate Sally--she talks too much and seems oddly desperate." Do you get it?

She's Just Not That Into You. If she wanted to see you, she'd either suggest a plan or would accept one of your overtures. She probably sees you as a pleasant third-tier friend. Get over it![/quote]

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