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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you avoid taking her to target because she'll want a toy every time? Do you avoid taking her to the grocery store because she'll demand ice cream?  Do you alway give in to her requests or do you say no?

While I don't think you should attach rewards to reading, I also think that a 3.5 year old should be able to understand "not today" if you want to look at the dolls. You could have her take photos of the ones she likes for "next time we go"

And if you never say no...it's a good time to start [/quote]

Those are totally different bc the adult has to go to those stores for errands and kids need to learn to tag along politely on those errands. And I think it’s clear to a young child “we are here for laundry detergent, not toys.” But there is no reason for an adult to go to the American girl store. The only purpose of that trip is to torture the child and try to teach a 3.5 year old some weird lesson she’s not capable of understanding.[/quote]

I respectfully disagree that it's as different as you think. Sometimes we had to go to target to buy a birthday present for another kid and only that, and my kids tagged along with me and they didn't get something.

I do think the whole AG reward for reading is not great, BUT the fear of taking a kid somewhere if you can't or won't buy them what they want when they want it...if you're so afraid, maybe your kid needs practice being let down in life: you're not alway going to get the lollipop you want, you're not always going to be able to wear your favorite dress when you want it; eat off of the tractor plate because it's being washed. I feel like so many parents are afraid of the tantrums they bend over backwards to make kids lives easy and stress free, but really you're teaching your kids to not be able to tolerate when life isn't fair or easy. [/quote]

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