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[quote=Anonymous][quote]PP here. I’ve worked extensively in domestic violence. You don’t have enough information here to decide what anything is. I’m sorry, I think instead of turning to the peanut gallery of people who may be projecting their own experiences and trauma on this, OP has the option of turning to a trained professional to sort out the next steps. Provided she feels safe enough to stay, that is. I’m assuming she is as [b]she hasn’t listed previous abuse[/b] and doesn’t say she is concerned for her safety.

Obviously the husband needs to work on some stuff. But everyone saying divorce are just jumping the gun.[/quote]

[quote]I’m not looking for judgement about my marriage, just damage control. Last night my DH and I got into a heated argument, I tried to leave the room, he grabbed my shoulder and pulled me back in, which resulted in me falling backwards on the floor and against the wall while holding a cordless vaccuum. It was very loud and I yelled, “Don’t push me! What’s wrong with you?” He then blocked the door while I yelled, about 3-4 times, “Let me out. Stop it.” He then said, very loudly, “I didn’t push you. Stop making up lies.” Turns out our kids were in the hallway outside our door and heard. They are 12 and 14. We each apologized for fighting, but didn’t specifically mention the physical part since, at that point, I didn’t know they heard that part and was hoping they didn’t. The reason I know they heard that part is I caught them texting each other after they were supposed to be in bed, took their phones downstairs, and read the texts, which were along the lines of “did he push her?” “I don’t know” This is the first time they have heard something like that. [b]It’s not the first time it’s happened[/b], but it hasn’t happened in years. Obviously, there is a huge marital issue we need to address. But in the interim, what should we do to address what the kids heard? I understand this is beyond the pale, and I’m devastated, so any non-judgmental advice would be much appreciated. Unfortunately, the therapist can’t talk until Monday.[/quote]

NP here. Posters accurately identifying her H's behavior as abusive aren't "projecting". Your post reeks of an agenda to discredit the OP, see your dismissal of her history above. Just stop, PP.[/quote]

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