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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, my 4.5 year old wears pull ups to bed still. It's not unusual. These PPs are acting superior for no reason at all. Because they can, I guess? Our pediatrician has told us that between a third to half of her 4 yr olds are not fully night trained yet. You're good.

What's not normal is watching your child tease and make fun of a younger child over a developmental milestone and saying nothing. That really surprises me. I would absolutely mention it to your friends and also let them know that this is something you care about. We don't hang out with people who condone teasing or name calling, and especially not if it's an older or bigger child doing it to someone younger. Our family believes everyone deserves respect and kindness, and you don't have to "earn" it by wearing underwear to bed or making sure your kids wear underwear to bed. You just get it for being a human.

To all these PPs: congrats on not pissing your bed at night, that's a big win! Now see if you can learn other adult skills like empathy, kindness, and accepting that not everyone does everything on your timeline.[/quote]

You’re assigning a lot of ill intent and judgement to another very young child so you’re not as kind as you’d like to think. What people are trying to tell you is that it’s completely normal for a 12 year old to ask a kid why they’re wearing diapers. Especially if they’ve seen that same kid using the bathroom and wearing regular clothes during the day.

What’s not normal is for an adult to infantilize their child by having them walk around in diapers in front of other people. Along the same lines, if the 4 year old had been walking around in underwear, it would have been normal for the 12 year old to ask “why aren’t you wearing pants!?!”

OP, your child is 4 years old not 4 months old. He needs to wear pants or shorts in front of other people. Period. Buy some pajamas. It’s (past) time.

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+1. Most parents of tweens/teens know that it's pretty normal for them to have no filter. They also know that correcting them is best done in private, which the mom in this situation may have done.

The OP is the one most at fault here. As an adult, she should be aware that 4 year olds shouldn't be running around in pull-ups in front of other people.[/quote]

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