Anonymous wrote:My 4.5 year old who still wears pullups at night would have brushed that comment off.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, my 4.5 year old wears pull ups to bed still. It's not unusual. These PPs are acting superior for no reason at all. Because they can, I guess? Our pediatrician has told us that between a third to half of her 4 yr olds are not fully night trained yet. You're good.

What's not normal is watching your child tease and make fun of a younger child over a developmental milestone and saying nothing. That really surprises me. I would absolutely mention it to your friends and also let them know that this is something you care about. We don't hang out with people who condone teasing or name calling, and especially not if it's an older or bigger child doing it to someone younger. Our family believes everyone deserves respect and kindness, and you don't have to "earn" it by wearing underwear to bed or making sure your kids wear underwear to bed. You just get it for being a human.

To all these PPs: congrats on not pissing your bed at night, that's a big win! Now see if you can learn other adult skills like empathy, kindness, and accepting that not everyone does everything on your timeline.

You’re assigning a lot of ill intent and judgement to another very young child so you’re not as kind as you’d like to think. What people are trying to tell you is that it’s completely normal for a 12 year old to ask a kid why they’re wearing diapers. Especially if they’ve seen that same kid using the bathroom and wearing regular clothes during the day.

What’s not normal is for an adult to infantilize their child by having them walk around in diapers in front of other people. Along the same lines, if the 4 year old had been walking around in underwear, it would have been normal for the 12 year old to ask “why aren’t you wearing pants!?!”

OP, your child is 4 years old not 4 months old. He needs to wear pants or shorts in front of other people. Period. Buy some pajamas. It’s (past) time.

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry but I’m going with it’s not normal for a 12/13 year old to be loudly wondering those questions and asking a kid if they “pee their pants.” It seems very weird to me. I wasn’t the most socially aware 12 year old, but I’m 100% sure I wouldn’t have said anything to my younger cousins if they wore pull-ups to bed. Someone should say something to the 12 year old - ideally her parent. I’d be limiting my time with this family from now on, there’s no need to “bubble” with people anymore really.

I would also make sure your kid wears PJ pants around other people to avoid this situation in the future.

Anonymous wrote:OP, my 4.5 year old wears pull ups to bed still. It's not unusual. These PPs are acting superior for no reason at all. Because they can, I guess? Our pediatrician has told us that between a third to half of her 4 yr olds are not fully night trained yet. You're good.

What's not normal is watching your child tease and make fun of a younger child over a developmental milestone and saying nothing. That really surprises me. I would absolutely mention it to your friends and also let them know that this is something you care about. We don't hang out with people who condone teasing or name calling, and especially not if it's an older or bigger child doing it to someone younger. Our family believes everyone deserves respect and kindness, and you don't have to "earn" it by wearing underwear to bed or making sure your kids wear underwear to bed. You just get it for being a human.

To all these PPs: congrats on not pissing your bed at night, that's a big win! Now see if you can learn other adult skills like empathy, kindness, and accepting that not everyone does everything on your timeline.

Anonymous wrote:It's a normal interaction between kids. I feel bad for your son but yeah, lesson learned. You run around in your incontinence underwear and a person who is not sophisticated enough to turn a blind eye might comment on it.

As far as the other kid goes, if she says something again I would be very KIND and say, "Larla, it hurts Johnny's feelings when people say that. He was wearing the pull up just in case of accidents, but no he doesn't usually wear diapers or pee his pants. But these are private issues so it's not polite for us to talk about them publicly; let's change the subject". DON'T be mean or defensive.

Larla's mom was probably mortified by the whole thing and didn't know what to say.

Meanwhile yes, I'd endeavor to get my son out of pull ups.

Anonymous wrote:It's a normal interaction between kids. I feel bad for your son but yeah, lesson learned. You run around in your incontinence underwear and a person who is not sophisticated enough to turn a blind eye might comment on it.

As far as the other kid goes, if she says something again I would be very KIND and say, "Larla, it hurts Johnny's feelings when people say that. He was wearing the pull up just in case of accidents, but no he doesn't usually wear diapers or pee his pants. But these are private issues so it's not polite for us to talk about them publicly; let's change the subject". DON'T be mean or defensive.

Larla's mom was probably mortified by the whole thing and didn't know what to say.

Meanwhile yes, I'd endeavor to get my son out of pull ups.

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Anonymous wrote:Why is your five year old in a diaper? A pull up is a diaper.

I am not the OP but my 5 year old insists on wearing a pull up. He hasn’t wet himself in a year and a half but says he wants it “just in case”. I choose not to fight that battle and we revisit occasionally.