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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If I am an able bodied grandma you bet I'm going to travel to see my family as often as they will allow me, instead of expecting them to pack everyone up and spend the money to come see me.

If a grandparent is disabled in some way that's different.  Also if the grandparent is poor, the kids should offer to help pay.

But no, with women working and limited vacation, I don't expect my children to pack up and visit me all the time.  What about their other inlaws?  Plus maybe the'd like to take a real vacation sometime.[/quote]

Can you please be my MIL? Mine cannot, even 16 years later, understand that we are restricted by vacation time, among other things, but the key being vacation time. My husband, her son, gets 12 days off a year. It’s been that way for a long time. If he does not spend all 12 visiting his family, the drama that ensues is out of control. Nor does she accept that maybe I don’t want to use every one of my vacation days to cover the various school days off to accommodate her selfish desire to have all my husband’s vacation to herself. As if we could never want to take a family vacation of our own or maybe even see my parents once in a while either. [/quote]

Yep. A lot of grandparents come in here and get testy and entitled. How about you just let your kids do what they want and no guilt trips... that's the thing for me.. the drama and guilt trips. My DH feels bad and brings it up. It's sort of fake to me because if they care they would come visit us or be more involved. [/quote]

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