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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is grounds for divorce. Suck it up and go. "I'm tired" is not a valid excuse not to go to your MILs funeral.[/quote]

How incredibly dramatic you are.

OP, don't listen to people like this who want to guilt you into doing what THEY think is best. They will not be there to help you with the toddlers in Wyoming, nor will they be there to help you nurse your unvaccinated, and therefore highly susceptible to infection, toddlers when they come down with omicron.

As a much wiser PP noted: Talk to your DH about how the children just got to see FIL when FIL was alive. That is valuable--more valuable than taking the kids back there for their mere presence.[/quote]

This is not about DH’s family,[b] this is about DH and his needs[/b]. They won’t be flying every week to go to a funeral. This is a[b] one time occurrence that also signifies a seismic shift in DH’s emotional world[/b]. [b]Why does OP count more than her husband in this pretty unique life event. His life event.[/b][/quote]

Agreed.  OP needs to be there with the kids because they need to support OP's husband and the kids' dad.  There is no question about it.[/quote]

Another "support" poster. So OP not only has to attend to two toddlers and hope they don't end up with covid too, but she has to support DH. What does that even mean? How is she supposed to support him other than by keeping the kids happy so he can interact with others at the funeral and probably other related events? Don't say, "Emotional support!" She will be busy every minute. And the "let the relatives help" line of response is just ridiculous at a time when you can't know who is or isn't vaccinated, infected, etc. It's just knee-jerk emotionalism to keep talking about support when you really mean DH just is not thinking straight about what hauling wife and kids on this trip really means. It will not mean support for him, unless he finds it therapeutic to help look after two toddlers during the trip. [/quote]

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