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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We hover and buzz around our children so much that we forget that they are the most resilient beings on earth. No matter what decision you make, WOH or SAHM, breastfeed or formula, they will adjust and adapt just fine. [/quote]

That's what we'd like to believe but I think that our decisions do affect our children, sometimes negative. Of course they adapt and carry on but sometimes it's because they simply have no choice. We don't exactly ask their opinion before we take our decisions. We just assume that they'll be fine. I'll never forget listening to a young lady grieve over her parents' divorce. She was in so much pain and I remember her saying that no one included her in the decision to break up her family. It was just done to her. Putting her in therapy only served to further alienate her because her parents thought that by doing that they were helping her so she just smiled to please her parents and carried on. She had carried such pain and confusion with her through to her adult years yet, on the face of it, she appeared happy and successful. she however had severe anxiety, depression, attachment and other issues that she believed stemmed from what she saw as a traumatic childhood that disenfranchised her from both households as both parents  took on new partners and families and she shuttled between the two trying the please her parents.
I'm not saying all children of divorce are in this predicament, simply that kids are just expected to adapt and deal with whatever their parents decide while we, as parents, tell ourselves that they are doing just fine.[/quote]

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