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I agree that people have these feelings, but I always get hung up on the part about how people leap to infer that the opposite choice is "wrong."  I guess most people are not that self-aware.  I mean, I know that I am in the camp of a SAHM who had an abusive childhood and is determined to offer something entirely different to my child coupled with having strong preferences for non-conventional parenting (lots of nature, no TV, organic, extended breastfeeding, etc.).  I see my choice as offering a particular family set-up to my child because it's important to me at this moment in my life, but that doesn't extend to thinking other people are making a wrong choice (except maybe people who stay up until the middle of the night felting party favors for their 2 year old's birthday party ;)).  Seriously, though, it's not automatic that having strong opinions about your own family leads to a judgment of others, but people seem to all too frequently infer that judgment.  I know people aren't like me (thank goodness, given all the experiences that went into shaping who I am and why I feel strongly about some of these things), so why would the specific arrangement that works for me also work for them?[/quote]

I'm the PP you quoted, and I certainly don't mean to imply that anyone with strong opinions is going to be judgmental.  For starters, it sounds like you are missing a key piece of what I'm describing, in that you don't seem to believe that your choices are "the right way to raise a child" merely that they are right for you and your child.  But my real point is that sometimes people paint any judgmental mom as a bitch, but we all make judgments.  If you saw a mom beating her child with a stick, or ignoring them next to heavy traffic, or any other dangerous parenting choice, you make a judgement, and you may even choose to comment your disapproval.  There's no real difference between that and a mom who believes that daycares are all dens of neglect and abuse tsk-ing at working mothers.  We all want the best for our kids, but we also want the best for kids in general.[/quote]

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