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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I love how only on DCUM is a mother completely ripped apart and told she’s a bad mom because she follows COVID guidelines and leaves her kids with dad for Christmas after they all tested positive. Meanwhile a parent who LITERALLY JUST GOT OUT OF REHAB is drinking again to the point the kids have discovered it and all anyone can say is “omg that must be so hard for you!”

And enough with the mumbo jumbo of “it’s a disorder and a disease like cancer!” No, it’s not. You made the choice. Don’t bring the stuff in your home, don’t buy it at the store.

Know what’s hard? Growing up in a family of alcoholics, which is what I did. Not understanding why mom gets angry and lashes out. Relationships getting torn apart. People going to jail and even dying. And yea, I carry the genes, too, and my drinking has gotten out of control. But once I was a parent I cut that sh!t out, I don’t touch the stuff, I don’t allow it in my home, I avoid drinkers like the plague. Because life is hard for everyone, you suck it up and do what’s right for your kid. [/quote]

Yes, you sound like an amazing parent…who doesn’t understand addiction at all, and has major anger issues. Good luck to your kids. [/quote]

Anyone who is the child of alcoholics understands PLENTY about addiction, trust. We know it intimately from the standpoint of the child depending on a drunk adult and trying to manage their addiction for them. I am a DP but also cut out drinking when I had kids, I wanted to break the cycle.

OP, it is troubling that you are citing a 90-95% failure rate for AA/rehab and slipping and instead of working your discharge plan you are posting here first. Esp with a child in the home who is acting responsible for you. I hope this is a troll post. You did not just happen to slip, you had to BUY the booze, there were several steps involved here. Presumably your house was cleared of alcohol when you went to rehab.

Only you can decide when you are committed to being sober but get your child into another, more stable and emotionally protected living situation with family, a residential school, whatever is available, maybe where he was while you were in rehab. He deserves to be in a healthier environment with stable adults caring for him instead of being traumatized trying to control your behavior and addiction when he is only a kid. He may never enjoy Christmas after this, or he may become an alcoholic too. The past can't be changed but he deserves a better living situation than you are able to provide right now.

The current scenario is not working for you either. Get him stabilized elsewhere and then decide if you want more inpatient where you were or to try something else. Good luck, OP.

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