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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My niece, 14-year-old freshman, dated a 17-year-old senior at her high school. She liked him because he was popular and smart. He found out that she liked him and asked her out. With the exception of one date where they saw a movie, their relationship consisted of him driving her to his house during lunch period and things progressed sexually. She did not want to have sex, told him she didn’t want it, but he [b]pressured her and coerced her.[/b] Told her he would [b]break up with her if she didn’t[/b]. She reluctantly went through with it but hated it. She eventually started cutting herself and other self-harm. After he graduated, he called her to say he was breaking up with her because he was going to college. She became depressed and had substance abuse issues. She is in therapy. Is what happened to her just poor judgment or self esteem on her part, or did the guy commit some kind of actionable offense against her?[/quote

What is the timeline here?  He broke up with her last June?

The devil is in the details of the bolded, specifically the "coerce" part.

I don't necessarily think it is wrong for a boy that age to want to have sex, to express that desire, and to try encourage a girlfriend.  All of that can happen while still being very respectful of consent.

And "threatening to break up if she doesn't have sex" is really just saying that the couple is not compatible.  
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