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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Seems like she should start working on her art in her spare time and put that marketing degree to use for herself and learn how to market her art so it sells.

I'm sure in some ways she is being dramatic and selfish, but there are 2 sides to every story.[/quote]

Agreed.  I did suggest that her marketing background could be a benefit to launching her website.  She started to work on it but lost interest.  There are always two sides, agreed.  That's why I don't want to diminish her feelings BC those are valid.  But it is painful when you're told you failed as a mother.  She on my took this current job BC we started pressuring her to apply for more jobs as we were coming up to a year since graduation and I am tiring if the extended adolescence.  She turned down three jobs prior to accepting this one.

I just don't like this victim mentality her therapist seems to feed into. [/quote]

Your daughter seems to be delusional and possible at onset of mental illness, her therapist playing hardball with her the way you want her too would not get you the results you think it would.[/quote]

Creativity is not a mental illness per se, although creative people may be more prone to mental illness.

Not sure being hard line/ black and white approach will help much here. As the way more mature grown up,  OP needs to help heal the relationship for both of their sakes.

Life will knock a lot of the nonsense out of her. It is good if parents can be a safe place to call home while setting realistic boundaries, which OP is already doing. [/quote]

Her creativity isn't the mental illness part, The part  where  where she thinks she's going to make thousands with what is likely marginal and cliche talent with very little work and research, life will be better in europe,  the nwo  is coming beliefs, her refusal to work eyc . rtx, many severe mental illnesses start  around her age[/quote]

Hmmm you may be right - probably good to consider magical thinking from both benign and malignant possibilities. I do hope it is relatively normal immaturity and entitlement that reality will deal with … I empathize having a highly creative daughter myself … it is hard to get the balance right between enforcing every day disciplines and honoring creative bent. OP’s daughter is an adult and that is a different arena …[/quote]

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