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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP,

I do not encourage therapy for this reason - most people who go are not mature enough (regardless of age) to understand that delving into their parents' choices doesn't mean accusing them. Most therapists are not intelligent or skilled enough to make that distinction. So a common consequence of therapy, particularly for the young, is that they come back and say it's all their parents' fault.

In addition, teens and young adults often struggle with accepting that they are their own people who can shape their own lives from now on. It's really tempting to place all blame on parents. I did that, and never went near therapy!  It took me many years to accept that my parents were extremely limited in their outlook and just could not have reacted differently than they did, and that it was unfair for me to judge them and their era based on what parenting is today.

So... give her space, and remember that she doesn't have to be factually right to have real feelings about it. Hopefully she'll mature soon.
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