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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why are people such jerks? Stop piling on OP as not being "alone". She feels that way and her feelings are valid.

God, some of you are such miserable, nasty people. [/quote]

I disagree. Sometimes perspective is a really important thing, and yes, while OP *feels* alone, feelings aren’t facts.  OP is unhappy because she is unable to see what she has, instead of focusing on what she doesn’t have.

I left home at 17, and spent many, many holidays completely alone, without any of the trimmings because I couldn’t afford them. I used that money to put myself through nursing school, and I used to volunteer at the hospital on holidays because they always had a hard time filling those shifts. I learned then that even I, at my darkest, had no idea what loneliness really was compared to some of the people that graced the doors of the emergency room those days.

OP a is choosing a fantasy of what she thinks happiness is, vs. The real happiness of feeling gratitude for what she actually has, which is a family of 4 who can afford take out and all the trimmings. It sounds like she has friends and people in her life, other than the few days they are busy, including distant parents.

The reality is, until OP against some perspective and gratitude, she won’t be happy with what she has. [/quote]

It's fine to be bummed not to have extended family to spend holidays with.

It's lacking perspective to call a family of four "alone"

OP I was dealing with something similar (don't have much extended family and or cousins etc that we see) and one thing that helped was figuring out how to make home celebrations special, even as just us. I started a thread about that and got lots of great tips. Now I look forward to our birthdays and holidays because they do truly feel special and the kids love it, but it is a lot of planning and work to make it feel different from the everyday grind.[/quote]

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