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[quote=Anonymous]Just because a parent rarely cuts off a child doesn't mean they can't or shouldn't. 
As an adult it is within your right to choose who you want to give your time and energy to and some choose not to give that to adults in their families that have undermined them, criticized them, demanded things from them. 
Some people have a higher tolerance for what is acceptable than others. 
My mom was very difficult to live with growing up. Always making me doubt myself and criticizing my choices. Getting upset if I chose different than SHE would have. 
I 'cut' her off for a year or 2 by rarely answering calls/texts and visiting only for 1 holiday and keeping it short. Once I got my footing, a new place, new job, started making choices that made me happy, i was able to let her in as I saw fit. I never told her she was cut off, I just distanced the hell away. 
I am in a similar boat with MIL where she has said some very hurtful things and has been anything but welcoming. I am nice and pleasant in person but really have no more energy to try to reach out and make it work when it is obvious she will hate me no matter what. Why keep throwing my time and energy to someone like that when i can be with people who bring me joy and love?

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