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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No one is entitled to impose into anyone else’s life so by definition the people doing the cutting off are always on the “right side”. The attitude that your adult children owe you something is exactly what leads to estrangement. [/quote]

It’s not always so black and white. Our DD cut us off b/c she thought our rules that drugs may not enter our home was unreasonable. She also thought that dating a twice convicted drug dealer was acceptable and that bringing that individual into our home, when we were not home was acceptable.  Worse, she brought this creep around her minor brother & sister, while we were out of town. She opted to leave, drop out of college & cut us off because these behaviors were not acceptable in our home. When I say drugs, I’m referring to pills & LSD.   It’s horrid and sad but she refuses help & therapy.  She is her own worst enemy. As parents, we have to protect all of our kids, particularly the minors.  As she’s over 18, we can’t do much except offer help, therapy & support.  [/quote] that’s really sad—but I can’t help but wonder what happened to your daughter that made her want to escape through drugs. I’d be exploring that if I were you. Happy, healthy people don’t do drugs for the most part. [/quote]

That's not at all true, Elle Woods.  "Exercise gives you endorphins.  Endorphins make you happy.  Happy people just don't shoot their husbands - they just don't!"  :roll:  :roll:

Addiction is a disease that can manifest itself in many ways and also skip generations.

Addiction is bad on my dad's side of the family.  My one cousin is addicted to hardcore drugs, his brother chain-smokes and is an alcoholic, and their sister is morbidly obese (food addiction).  My brother is a alcoholic with 3 DUIs and our dad is a recovered alcoholic.  So far, I have been spared.  Same with my uncle, who is the father of those three cousins and my dad's brother, no addictions for him.

You will probably read that above and think 'what in the trailer park?!' but no, everyone mentioned above went to good colleges and graduated.  All except for the drug addict live in the DMV area and maintain jobs - a lawyer, a c-suite executive, a teacher, a software developer.     [/quote]

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