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I get this, and I used to do the same, but it goes both ways.  It would get increasingly frustrating when my friends would leave temptations within my child's reach and continue to watch me struggle to constantly get him to keep his hands off.  At some point, if my friend does nothing to remove her purse or bag or whatever, I take that to mean that she doesn't care that my son is pulling her things out and I let him be.  I'll take the item away and say "no" if, after I do it once or twice, you remove your bag from his reach.  Otherwise, it's fair game.  Now he's 5 and it's a whole other ballgame.  It's my (and his) responsibility to keep his hands off other people's property.  But when he was a toddler, I expected my friends to protect their property as much as I did.  
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No.  It is your responsibility to manage your child.  If you cannot manage your child, then you can ask me to take whatever items I have out of your child's reach and I can comply or otherwise take responsibility for those items.  But you have the [b]first and foremost[/b] responsibility to either keep an eye/hand on your child and if you cannot keep them from taking/touching someone else's things, to remove your child from the temptations.

In this case it was especially egregious because there were four adults for two toddlers.  I understand toddlers can get into everything, but why was OP's DH the only one to notice that the friends' toddler was getting into the diaper bag and at the keys?  If he was busy wrangling OP's difficult child, who was watching the other toddler?  I can understand the problem when the children outnumber the caregivers, but when the parents outnumber the children 2:1, then there should be at least one parent per child monitoring.

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A close second is not being a dumbass, ie watching a kid walk around with YOUR OWN keys and doing nothing about it.  Sorry, but it's the height of hypocrisy to not care enough to do anything, and then blame someone else for not doing anything.  The DH did not have the common sense to think of the consequences, and life taught him a lesson.[/quote]

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