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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hey OP I’m sorry. I know it sucks. I’m Arab and this is the tradition. In the country I’m from we don’t really abide by this tradition. My husband’s country though is quite hardcore about it. Thankfully though I ended up having three girls and thankfully both of us are not from Arab countries that are hardcore about naming the eldest daughter after the paternal grandmother.  To be honest OP there is no way around it without causing massive offense. If your husband was on board he could probably convince his parents but if not it will be difficult. Could you have a middle name for your son that you like and then have your son go by that name in school? (I know under Arab tradition the middle name is basically the father’s name but maybe your husband can let this one go). For what it’s worth I know a Hani that grew up in the US and no one ever associated his name with honey.[/quote]

Well, if the kid is American then Arab tradition is irrelevant. If they wanted to keep Arab traditions 100% they shouldn’t have moved to the US. [/quote]

PP you are responding to here. Yes maybe they shouldn’t have moved to the US but in the end that doesn’t matter. The reality is that Arabs and Middle Easterners in general have a lot of traditions. It’s the same with Greeks and a host of other cultures which cling to their traditions. So if you marry into an Arab family then that just comes with the package. Now in the end it’s OP’s choice whether to name her son Hani or not. However not naming her son Hani may end up causing a real rift so OP will have to keep that in mind. I say maybe because her in laws may actually get over it. It really depends. The more important person in this equation is OP’s husband who might be upset too. So OP I suggest sitting down together and talking it through.  Now I’m not OP but if I were in OP’s situation I would name my son Hani (nothing wrong with the name by the way… Im sure he his classmates in school are used to all sorts of names) but then pick a middle name that I like. Son can have the choice of going by Hani or his middle name. I would also make a deal where I get to pick the names of all the subsequent kids. To me this would be a better solution than basically breaking with a major tradition. [/quote]

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