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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]While the PPs aren't necessarily wrong, [b]I think the idea that people have large support networks because they're kind/givers is a fallacy. I'm there for every friend when they're sick, pregnant, have a wedding, going through a divorce, depression, etc. Do you know who's there for me when I have surgery? One friend. [/b]It was awful.

On the other hand, my dad is a genuinely awesome guy, he's a stand up guy, but he's not necessarily a giver in this sense, he doesn't nurture and cultivate relationships, etc. Everyone loves him. When he went to the hospital for a surgery, even his dry-cleaner visited him.

It's sometimes about chemistry, sometimes about the environment, sometimes luck, it's not really something you can design and achieve IMHO. [/quote]

This has been my experience too.  It was heartbreaking and I felt so lonely.  I thought we were building community. Our circle is much smaller now.  I just do not have the energy to keep up with one sided relationships anymore.

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