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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I sympathise. I don't have a support network either. I am 53 years old and I have no one to call in a crisis.

My husband and I moved from a big city to a small town years ago and it is really difficult to form close friendships here. 
We have acquaintances but our relationships with people here never progress from 'acquaintance' to 'friend'.

The relationships I have with people here feel very one-sided. Me initiating contact with others - not always with the desired result. It's hit and miss.
I did an experiment last year. I didn't contact anyone for 4 months. No one contacted me either ...

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You need the skill of forming friendships.[/quote]

What do you think this poster needs to do that she may not be doing (serious question).[/quote]

A good friend did the same experiment, but maybe only for a month and nobody contacted her.  Nobody.  I was shocked (and mortified that I hadn't contacted her, though in my defense I'd just had my first child).  You'd never think it if you knew her though.  She is many, many people's favorite person.  [/quote]

I have a lot of friends but I am usually the one who initiates - a lot of people don't have the bandwidth/personality/inclination to do this but they respond positively, are good listeners, etc. So I can totally see this happening to me if I went off the grid. Sometimes I consciously have to make the calculation whether a friendship is worth it to me, if I'm willing to make the effort to maintain it. [/quote]

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