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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Instead of using your parents or DCUM posters as your gauge...why don't you look up what ACTUAL EXPERTS say about this.

https://www.niaaa.nih.gov/alcohol-health/overview-alcohol-consumption/moderate-binge-drinking

This one tells you his risk of becoming a problem drinker, based upon his current patterns:

https://www.rightstep.com/rehab-blog/risk-drinking-excessive-drinking-defined-niaaa/

[b]Your parents love you very much, and want to be sure that you are not entering into a high risk marriage. [/b]

I would NOT mention your parents to the SO, but do your own homework. If you have concerns, share them with him (using reputable professional sources, again, not family sources) and see how he reacts. [/quote]

I am the poster who posted the long thing above about the relevant facts about bf/parents.

You don't know that the bolded is true. You don't know that the parents have good/decent judgement on this issue. My mom would have said something like this to manipulate me into dumping my bf and staying by her side forever. There is a LOT of real estate in between what you describe and how I describe my mom, but there are TONS of reasons that OP's parents could be coming from a more self motivated than altruistic place.

I think the fact that they are bringing up an ancient history dinner (the third time they met him! OP's been dating him for three years!) and not a whole series of events says everything that needs to be said.

They're fishing.

OP glad my post helped you, believe in yourself and your own judgement! You saw your own problematic drinking for what it is, so you are not blind to these issues. [/quote]

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