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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Does she do this with other people?  That’s super weird.  I like the thrift store idea.  I agree you need to limit interaction as you can.[/quote]

I do think she does it to other people. Recently I was out with another friend and mentioned an activity the copycat had suggested we all sign up for, and my friend said something like “Actually I suggested that because [her old roommate] works there, but whatever.” I think [b]she has a tendency to pick up other people’s ideas but pass them off as her own. [/b]With social stuff this doesn’t really matter (if it’s fun who cares who came up with it) but I do think it’s annoying and feels not friendly.[/quote]

If she copies other people besides you, she is not a copycat.  She is just finding things she likes among her friends. [/quote]

While I think sometimes that’s true (trends tend to run through friend groups), this sounds like something else. It’s normal to borrow ideas from friends. It’s not normal to act like they were your ideas. I had a friend like this once. It’s not that she copied, it’s that she would copy and then make a big show of her “coming up” with something or originating and idea. Like I have a sports team I follow avidly and I like sharing that interest with friends. I invited her to a couple games, something I do with lots of friends. But then she got really into the team and started saying I wasn’t a “real” fan for random reasons and it was SO obnoxious. I didn’t mind that she started following the team (I’d encouraged it!), but when she started acting like it was her thing and not mine, it bothered me.

Some people are just possessive and insecure.[/quote]

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