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[quote=Anonymous]I wouldn't mention performance unless he does. It may not be on his radar, which is PERFECT.

However, if he is bothered by his performance, you can begin to talk about how everyone has ups and downs, and your downs don't define you. I have a 15 year old baseball pitcher. He's pretty darn good and has dreams of playing D1 ball. It's a long shot, but if that's his dream I'll cheer him on. Part of that is reminding myself and him that a poor outing isn't the end of the dream. Giving up a triple and getting pulled from the game isn't the end of the dream. Losing command and not being able to find the strike zone one day isn't the end of the dream. Those things happen to every pitcher at every level, and if he wants to be good he has to realize that EVERYONE fails, and the only way it sinks you is if you don't keep going after failure. Baseball is full of failure - most at bats aren't hits, a third of pitches are balls - and so it offers endless opportunities to practice this mindset. At this point my son is better at it than I am, and I stew and worry about a bad outing more than he does, which I am now working very hard to change. I think I am going to stop going to some games, or I'll at least make myself go take a walk and detach. Don't be me, OP! :-)[/quote]

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