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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your DH sounds like a pain. But also, if you’re in charge of hygiene, you get to make a routine. Most parents choose evening for kids to bathe, others morning. Why wait 2 days until afternoon and dig in about it being necessary right now?[/quote]

This is my read on the situation as well.  Why was it okay for 2 days and suddenly imperative to do it immediately? [/quote]

I wanted him to shower because they were about to go out and likely end up indoors some place.  Generally I want my kid not to smell bad. If they had been heading out the door that second and I tried to stop them - yes, that would have been unreasonable. But they clearly were not going anywhere for at least 30
minutes and DH just got really fixated on that he didn’t need to shower. Part of posting here is to wonder why he is like that — like really, why did hearing me tell our son to shower trigger him? But it’s probably pointless to wonder. For those of you who don’t have to deal with this kind of erratic stuff, I’m happy for you. [/quote]

and btw - one reason he had not showered is that DH kept him out really late the night before (usually shower at night) and I decided to skip the shower so he could get to bed on time. With school struggles I’m trying to keep his bedtime consistent, while at the same time trying to teach him basic hygeine during early puberty, and then also just make sure he’s presentable in public so he doesn’t have to be the smelly kid on top of everything else. DH participates in none of this - and I mean none. He had to be taught step by step to take a shower at all because of sensory issues. The only time DH gets involved in any of this stuff is on a sudden, erratic basis if he gets some be in his bonnet about how it inconveniences him or he dislikes it in the moment. I’ve already sort of given up on the bedtime consistency because often times DH will ignore DS and the house all day until like 8:45pm and then want to take DS on a walk. So I say ok because I know it’s the only time they will have together. Then they come home late, shower skipped, and we end up in chaos like yesterday morning.

I dunno guys, it is so, so exhausting. [/quote]

Your DH has some real issues.  
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He does. The more I accept that the better it will be. [/quote]

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