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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m sorry OP this is tough. 16 would be much better. My mom took me to the OB gyn when I had just turned 17 and confided in her that I wanted birth control. I had a full appointment and drove myself. I thought she handled it well.

But this situation is a bit different.

It’s a lot to give a 14 year old this level of trust. Even if you get her birth control, it all seems concerning. For perspective, men go to jail with catch a predator schemes with FBI agents pretending to be 14. What if she breaks up with this boyfriend and then gets another one who’s older and he gets slammed with a statutory rape situation?

You want her trust but this is a lot... [/quote]

Agree. Don’t give up on parenting with wise counsel in favor of chasing the reward of being her confidante through your “support.” This is one of those areas where all the adults in the room know that being sexually active at 14 rarely leads to positive things. Be loving but be honest, OP. Let her know you aee tree concerned but glad she came to you because you will help her prevent the things that can —to some extent—be prevented (like unwanted pregnancy) but there are still some things that you cannot shield her from (heartbreak, regret, hormonal surges released during sex that make her feel more attached to this boy, by biological design, that may confuse her when he is over the relationship and doesn’t feel those same attachments, etc.) 
You can’t do UN-ring this bell, OP, but not do you need to throw a party about it. Strike a balance of support and compassion. But keep the concern. [/quote]

This is good advice.   [/quote]

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