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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Parents definitely play down issues or don’t see how disruptive certain behaviors can be in a group setting.  While I don’t doubt you, OP, as a teacher I have reached out to many parents regarding behavioral issues and they blow it off.  Then they’re shocked when their child isn’t invited back for the next year.

Yes, I’m sure some schools are “heartless” - some parents are completely dismissive.  [/quote]

Do you explicitly say as early as possible “if we don’t see xyz change in behavior before the end of the year, this won’t be a good fit for him next year.”  How clearly do your communicate minor things you’re working on from serious concerns.  I’m on my 3rd kid and I swear every conference is the same vague pleasantries of good and bad info and it’s impossible to read when someone is elevating to a real concern [/quote]

As a private school teacher you can’t threaten “if we don’t see improvement by this date your kid is out”.  We make the seriousness known however and suggest ways to rectify the behavior at home.  We would never say everything is fine unless it is.  We’d give you positives but also negatives about your child at school.  You’ll know when it’s a real concern if you’re listening.  [/quote]

That’s just not true.  “I have serious concerns about larlos ability to thrive here because of his difficulties with self regulation during transitions” is very different from “larlo is such a smart sweet boy and he love seeing him discover new things in our classroom! We are continuing to work with him on his ability to manage transitions”  I’ve gotten the later and then was blamed for being surprised that he was advised to not return.  Do better by families - don’t speak in vague tones and hope parents pick up on the seriousness.  You’ve seen 100s of kids, parents have seen one or two, all kids have strengths and weaknesses and all kids need to work on things.  If something is a serious concern and the child is an outlier, ffs please be direct about it [/quote]

They don't because they've probably had too many experiences of parents in denial and becoming enraged and threatening to sue the school or yank their kid out and badmouth to everyone. People think that because they are reasonable, that other parents are, or that they would handle a hypothetical situation one reasonable way, but then when it actually happens, they go off their rocker because the evil school doesn't know how to teach their precious kid and what a lousy admin and yes they were happy when Larlo was asked not to return last year but Aidan is just not like that!! And so on and so forth.

Schools don't hint at things because they enjoy playing cat and mouse. They hint because they've dealt with too many explosions and unpleasant, angry reactions, and nobody wants to put themselves in the soup.[/quote]

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