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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Parents definitely play down issues or don’t see how disruptive certain behaviors can be in a group setting.  While I don’t doubt you, OP, as a teacher I have reached out to many parents regarding behavioral issues and they blow it off.  Then they’re shocked when their child isn’t invited back for the next year.

Yes, I’m sure some schools are “heartless” - some parents are completely dismissive.  [/quote]

Do you explicitly say as early as possible “if we don’t see xyz change in behavior before the end of the year, this won’t be a good fit for him next year.”  How clearly do your communicate minor things you’re working on from serious concerns.  I’m on my 3rd kid and I swear every conference is the same vague pleasantries of good and bad info and it’s impossible to read when someone is elevating to a real concern [/quote]

As a private school teacher you can’t threaten “if we don’t see improvement by this date your kid is out”.  We make the seriousness known however and suggest ways to rectify the behavior at home.  We would never say everything is fine unless it is.  We’d give you positives but also negatives about your child at school.  You’ll know when it’s a real concern if you’re listening.  [/quote]

That’s just not true.  “I have serious concerns about larlos ability to thrive here because of his difficulties with self regulation during transitions” is very different from “larlo is such a smart sweet boy and he love seeing him discover new things in our classroom! We are continuing to work with him on his ability to manage transitions”  I’ve gotten the later and then was blamed for being surprised that he was advised to not return.  Do better by families - don’t speak in vague tones and hope parents pick up on the seriousness.  You’ve seen 100s of kids, parents have seen one or two, all kids have strengths and weaknesses and all kids need to work on things.  If something is a serious concern and the child is an outlier, ffs please be direct about it [/quote]

Did you question “what do you mean about transitions?”  And “what is he doing/how’s is he behaving?”  NP here and I would have stopped the teacher there.  [/quote]

Yes of course, and got answers like “oh he gets a bit over excited and will sometimes swing his coat around” - which sounds like a totally normal 3 yo behavior to me, yes of course one that needs to be worked on but not DEEPLY CONCERNING.  Then 2 weeks before the end of the year they advise that he doesn’t return because apparently their approach to managing it was to hold his hand and that won’t be possible when he’s 4 and there are new 3yos.[/quote]

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