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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The two options are not wealth or poverty.

The vast majority of adults fall in between. You are deceiving yourself about what is necessary for a good life.

https://www.cnbc.com/2020/05/26/how-your-salary-and-the-way-you-spend-money-affect-your-happiness.html[/quote]

Thank you. This is why the focus on schools and salaries is so weird to me. My husband went to Williams, which is usually ranked in the top 3 colleges, and got his JD at a top 10 law school but he works in government because he was so horrified by the lifestyles of the partners at the summer he spent working in a firm that he decided he didn't want to do that with his life. He will never make more than he makes now, which is like $165K a year. I went to a SLAC that was ranked in the 10-15 range in the 90s and is now ranked in the 20-25 range and I've always made way more than him because I wanted to work in the private sector--I happen to do something that is more remunerative and I am really good at it, even though it has literally nothing to do with my undergrad major. We're both happy and have a reasonable work-life balance.

We are privileged to be able to live in an area that has excellent public schools and we can afford to send our kids to college without worrying about the cost, but we have never pressured them to stress about course choices or grades or ECs or any of that for purposes of college admissions. I read these threads--or threads about people stressing about getting first graders identified for gifted services--and can't fathom why people want to spend 12 or 18 years making themselves and their kids worry about something, spending a fortune on tutors and coaches, and focusing so much on a goal that a) you can't control and b) doesn't guarantee anything.

Live your lives. If your kids are smart and hardworking, they will do OK whether they go to Harvard or some school that isn't in the top tier (now or 20 years from now). [/quote]

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