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[quote=Anonymous]OP here, thanks for all the advice so far. To clarify a few things:

(1) Yes, I have a husband, he's awesome, we talk about everything, but I'd love a couple close friends as well.

(2) No, I do not ONLY want to talk about deep topics. I really enjoy talking about kids and travel and food and gossip. But I *also* want to talk about running and growing my company, challenges in managing my team, and other work stuff (and hearing about other people's work experiences too!) And I want to talk about social issues, like billionaire philanthropy and voter suppression and antiracism curriculum in schools, all the latest news/drama about the backlash at top public and private schools, and so on.

If you are not interested in these topics, it's cool, many people aren't. But my question is how to find people who are (and who are also looking for new friends).

(3) No, I do not have autism (?!?!?) and I am aware of how small talk works. And I know that relationships take time. I have put lots of time into getting to know people, before the pandemic we were doing many playdates, parties, and moms nights out. Since people kept inviting me to these things, I don't think I pushed them away with my horrible social skills. But even when I got to know people more closely, they just did not share my interests and we never became close friends.

(4) Why am I looking for parent friends...because people who don't also have young kids don't really get that whole side of me. Also, people without young kids are on totally different schedules...between work and kids, I'm also really busy I don't have a ton of time for adults-only events.

Probably the most insightful piece of advice here has been that I'm looking for too much -- different friends fulfill different needs. I hear that, but I think lots of people have 1-2 best friends who can relate to them on all levels and talk about anything.

I know this is possible, because I actually had two close mom friends like this when my oldest was just born. We lived in a big city and it was much easier to meet people. Those friendships were amazing, but we all moved to different parts of the country and so we can't see each other. By the way, with both of those women, the connection was obvious right away. We clicked on the playground and within days we were talking like old friends about everything under the sun. But since moving, I've met probably 200-300 different parents (over the course of a few years) and never found anyone like that again. 
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