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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was not giving therapeutic advice. A mentally ill person should be helped by a mental health professional.

I was saying that this is a great opportunity for parents to help young adults learn how to cope with hardship. yes, the hardship is real, but hardships come along in life. How will they get through disappointment, changes in plans? 
Think of this as a teachable moment (and NO, I am not saying a child with clinical depression can be "taught" back to health. To reiterate, they need professional management and likely medication.)

Even for a sad/disappointed kid with NO mental illness, I would not say "suck it up, buttercup." That is not supportive. You can acknowledge what the kid has lost/is mourning, or the difficulties they are encountering...but help them identify ways to cope...because this will not be their last disapointment. Or the last time in life they wll be forced to pivot/adapt.

For those whose kids are suffering for mental illness, I am sorry. The pandemic may have triggered it...but perhaps they were at risk and were it not this, it would have been a breakup or failed test. I think it is good they are home when it happened, so you could pick up on it quickly and help them learn how to manage their illness before they are off away at college. May they recover quickly and fully.[/quote]

I appreciate your comments. I understand what you are saying. FTR, I never actually said “suck it up” to DC, I was just brought up that way.

Yes, for kids with mental health issues, it could have been triggered by lots of other things in a normal year. But even a bad break-up wears off after a while.
Friends, team sports, trips to the mall tend to blunt the impact and longevity of painful setbacks. Maybe she will one day draw from the resilience established in this year. I truly hope so.[/quote]

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