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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When I married three years ago, my aunts/uncles gave $100. Wondering if $1,000 is a typo??[/quote]

When I married 20 years ago, $100 was a cheap gift. Sorry. [/quote]

My eyes are popping. Is everyone here rich and/or from a culture that gives almost overly generous gifts, as a rule?

When *I* got married 20 years ago, $100 was fairly standard but $50 didn't seem cheap to me, and I was pleasantly shocked with cash or gift equivalents of $200. We had family and friends all over the map in terms of both class and race, but this was DC.

Now I give like $100-150 for most, but would give $250 for a niece. We are still in DC and have a HHI of $125k. I didn't think we were being cheapskates.

I almost fainted when my godfather gave us $500 when our kid was born 8 years ago. No one else gave us remotely that. Mostly $25-100, a couple others higher. I can't imagine getting $1000 for a wedding! I mean, great, if you can! But that can't possibly be the standard even for a close relation, unless you're wealthy or come from one of a few cultures.[/quote]

Ohhhhhhh I'm this PP and I just realized from some of the comments that some of you are still under the false impression that your gift should "cover" the cost of your meals and entertainment at the wedding. "You can't even go out to a nice dinner for $100," "Black Tie DC" and so on. That would at least explain the "$100 is incredibly cheap" contingent. Ah, well.[/quote]

I mean you are eating and drinking like you would on a night out on the town. Yes, this wedding wasn't your idea but you are consuming. 
Showing up with just a smile would be rude. Under $100 for two adults to attend a wedding is a little odd assuming your home is gainfully employed by those who wish to be employed. Now if I received a gift from someone I knew was struggling, I would have a hard time cashing that check, and really wouldn't know what to do as I wouldn't want to be rude either.

People should just do what they are comfortable with. I am DC wedding up above from a few years ago. We give $250 now as a standard, we are in our early 30s, HHI $200k.[/quote]

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