Anonymous
Post 04/26/2021 13:15     Subject: Niece's wedding gift-how much?
Anonymous wrote:If my niece or two nephews were to get married I would assume we'd give them between $250 to $500 each.


This would be the norm in my family. $1k would be a gift from the grandparents, maybe. My aunt was also highly involved in my bridal (and baby) shower and gave us nice gifts for those showers, engagement, housewarming. So I'm sure she spent well over $1k over a period of a couple of years with all of that combined but I would have been shocked if she had given me a $1k check for my wedding.
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2021 12:31     Subject: Niece's wedding gift-how much?
If my niece or two nephews were to get married I would assume we'd give them between $250 to $500 each.
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2021 10:41     Subject: Niece's wedding gift-how much?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:When I married three years ago, my aunts/uncles gave $100. Wondering if $1,000 is a typo??


When I married 20 years ago, $100 was a cheap gift. Sorry.


My eyes are popping. Is everyone here rich and/or from a culture that gives almost overly generous gifts, as a rule?

When *I* got married 20 years ago, $100 was fairly standard but $50 didn't seem cheap to me, and I was pleasantly shocked with cash or gift equivalents of $200. We had family and friends all over the map in terms of both class and race, but this was DC.

Now I give like $100-150 for most, but would give $250 for a niece. We are still in DC and have a HHI of $125k. I didn't think we were being cheapskates.

I almost fainted when my godfather gave us $500 when our kid was born 8 years ago. No one else gave us remotely that. Mostly $25-100, a couple others higher. I can't imagine getting $1000 for a wedding! I mean, great, if you can! But that can't possibly be the standard even for a close relation, unless you're wealthy or come from one of a few cultures.


Ohhhhhhh I'm this PP and I just realized from some of the comments that some of you are still under the false impression that your gift should "cover" the cost of your meals and entertainment at the wedding. "You can't even go out to a nice dinner for $100," "Black Tie DC" and so on. That would at least explain the "$100 is incredibly cheap" contingent. Ah, well.


I mean you are eating and drinking like you would on a night out on the town. Yes, this wedding wasn't your idea but you are consuming.
Showing up with just a smile would be rude. Under $100 for two adults to attend a wedding is a little odd assuming your home is gainfully employed by those who wish to be employed. Now if I received a gift from someone I knew was struggling, I would have a hard time cashing that check, and really wouldn't know what to do as I wouldn't want to be rude either.

People should just do what they are comfortable with. I am DC wedding up above from a few years ago. We give $250 now as a standard, we are in our early 30s, HHI $200k.
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2021 22:47     Subject: Niece's wedding gift-how much?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:When I married three years ago, my aunts/uncles gave $100. Wondering if $1,000 is a typo??


When I married 20 years ago, $100 was a cheap gift. Sorry.


My eyes are popping. Is everyone here rich and/or from a culture that gives almost overly generous gifts, as a rule?

When *I* got married 20 years ago, $100 was fairly standard but $50 didn't seem cheap to me, and I was pleasantly shocked with cash or gift equivalents of $200. We had family and friends all over the map in terms of both class and race, but this was DC.

Now I give like $100-150 for most, but would give $250 for a niece. We are still in DC and have a HHI of $125k. I didn't think we were being cheapskates.

I almost fainted when my godfather gave us $500 when our kid was born 8 years ago. No one else gave us remotely that. Mostly $25-100, a couple others higher. I can't imagine getting $1000 for a wedding! I mean, great, if you can! But that can't possibly be the standard even for a close relation, unless you're wealthy or come from one of a few cultures.


Ohhhhhhh I'm this PP and I just realized from some of the comments that some of you are still under the false impression that your gift should "cover" the cost of your meals and entertainment at the wedding. "You can't even go out to a nice dinner for $100," "Black Tie DC" and so on. That would at least explain the "$100 is incredibly cheap" contingent. Ah, well.
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2021 22:44     Subject: Niece's wedding gift-how much?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:When I married three years ago, my aunts/uncles gave $100. Wondering if $1,000 is a typo??


When I married 20 years ago, $100 was a cheap gift. Sorry.


My eyes are popping. Is everyone here rich and/or from a culture that gives almost overly generous gifts, as a rule?

When *I* got married 20 years ago, $100 was fairly standard but $50 didn't seem cheap to me, and I was pleasantly shocked with cash or gift equivalents of $200. We had family and friends all over the map in terms of both class and race, but this was DC.

Now I give like $100-150 for most, but would give $250 for a niece. We are still in DC and have a HHI of $125k. I didn't think we were being cheapskates.

I almost fainted when my godfather gave us $500 when our kid was born 8 years ago. No one else gave us remotely that. Mostly $25-100, a couple others higher. I can't imagine getting $1000 for a wedding! I mean, great, if you can! But that can't possibly be the standard even for a close relation, unless you're wealthy or come from one of a few cultures.
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2021 19:06     Subject: Niece's wedding gift-how much?
I’d do $400.
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2021 19:05     Subject: Re:Niece's wedding gift-how much?
$500-$1000 is what we got from aunts, uncles, and even some distant relatives that my parents made me invite. This was three years ago.
Friend group was $100-$250 and we were just under 30years old. If it matters this was black tie, downtown dc.

I have a local friend who’s spouse is from WI and they give $50 to his WI friends and the couples are shocked at the generosity lol.
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2021 18:24     Subject: Niece's wedding gift-how much?
$250
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2021 18:21     Subject: Niece's wedding gift-how much?
I like to give a gift in the range of 300-500 for close relatives or friend’s children unless they are tightwads.
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2021 18:13     Subject: Niece's wedding gift-how much?
I am single in my mid 30s and make 6 figures in a cheaper COL than DC. My brother got married last August and I gave $150. If I had a partner or kids I probably would have done $250. Anything above that is too much unless your whole family is wealthy or it is cultural.

Anonymous
Post 04/25/2021 18:08     Subject: Niece's wedding gift-how much?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I eloped in Vegas. I find it strange that other adults would need to give me money...how embarrassing. If I could not afford to get married then I would not. I would rather they donate to charity.


This!


It’s customary to give gifts for weddings and birthdays. Do you donate to charity instead of giving gifts normally?


Yes I do.
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2021 18:06     Subject: Niece's wedding gift-how much?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I eloped in Vegas. I find it strange that other adults would need to give me money...how embarrassing. If I could not afford to get married then I would not. I would rather they donate to charity.


This!


It’s customary to give gifts for weddings and birthdays. Do you donate to charity instead of giving gifts normally?
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2021 18:04     Subject: Re:Niece's wedding gift-how much?
Check for 1 K - 5 K.
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2021 18:03     Subject: Niece's wedding gift-how much?
Anonymous wrote:When I married three years ago, my aunts/uncles gave $100. Wondering if $1,000 is a typo??


$1000 is totally ridiculous.

$100 is perfect.
Anonymous
Post 04/25/2021 17:42     Subject: Niece's wedding gift-how much?
Anonymous wrote:I eloped in Vegas. I find it strange that other adults would need to give me money...how embarrassing. If I could not afford to get married then I would not. I would rather they donate to charity.


This!