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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am one of the bitter old hags who criticize big families. We have a great many of them in our area. And increasingly, I feel like having a big family in this day and age is a political act. They are the homeschooling, right-wing types who practice Natural Family Planning but can't seem to get it right.  And more annoying that that, they are in my way. When we are at swimming lessons or dance, the moms are the ones sitting on their asses letting their kids throw the free newspapers on the ground or stick pencils in their eyes. They are the kids drowning in the swimming pool. One of them is always MIA. Hey wanna-be Mrs Duggars of the world, watch your children. I often wonder, I only have two kids why do I seem busier or more harried than Mrs. Duggar who is over there lounging b/c she's tired. She's pregnant again, of course. So her kids are out playing in traffic or the older ones have the little ones (maybe). The other day I saw one mom really berating her 7 (?) old for not watching the little ones. That just isn't right. [/quote]

ITA.  Some mom of a large brood is probably going to come on here and tell us all that the woman in your story is not stressed because she just has her act together or something whereas you are a disorganized, lazy mess.  Nonsense.  Most of the women like the one you observed do not take care of the family day-to-day.  How can they, after all, they are always pregnant or breastfeeding an infant.   Day-to-day care is done by someone else (if at all).  The homeschooling is one of the more disturbing issues, and I believe that the OP has stated on other threads that she home schools.   How does someone who is always pregnant or breastfeeding an infant also properly homeschool the older children?  The OP of this thread is on this site posting so much that we know about her home births, her Catholic faith, her family blog, that she was the oldest of 10, her husband is in the military, and the gender of her kids.  [b]How can someone who home schools multiple older kids and presumably runs a household of 10 people have so much time for the Internet?[b]  [/quote]

Yikes, I feel so stalked.

Fair question, though the same could be asked of the many professionals/dual income posters here.  For me, I use DCUM as a diversion when exercising and breastfeeding.  It gives me a window into a world very different from my Catholic homeschooling one, and I find the differing perspectives fascinating.  And I have been dealing with a serious, long-term illness the past few months, so the distraction has been nice, though often guilty.

Since my older children have needed to take on more than their usual share of responsibility during my illness, my original question has been weighing heavily on my mind, but I am starting to get back to my normal self, and I think they rose to the occasion quite well.  I am proud of their resourcefulness and concern, and I hope we are able to make up for lost ground soon.

Big families do often operate in different grooves, different rhythms.  The chaos ebbs and flows, and what counts as organization for us might not look that way on the outside.  But I think there are many opportunities for virtue in living such a life, and I am grateful for the stories shared here, because they help me reflect on what I can do better.[/quote]

You sound lovely, PP, hope you get better soon! [/quote]

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