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[quote=Anonymous]As an immigrant, I came to this country with really nothing, but was young, motivated and hard working. My parents had 5 children, therefore it was impossible to give children any kind of good life.  I left the house as soon as I finished 2 years of college education after high school in my country. For a young girl back in 1990s,  there were no jobs in my country, so I knew I had to go abroad.  I was incredibly lucky to come to this country. I worked my way up, finished college here, got a good paying job 80-110K per year and married an American who was not rich, but responsible with his money and had no debt. I got nothing from my parents past my 20 years. I have a young child now and recently we upgraded to a nicer neighborhood and moved  to a bigger house. I don't know what the future will be for my child, but I hope that we could all live in the same house together ( house is paid off); this way my daughter would not have to worry about buying a house. I know that in this country, adult kids don't often live together with parents, but in my country and many parts of the world, this is not a big deal to live together. I'm doing a lot of things to give my child  a leg up and  better opportunities in life than I had. She will never understand how hard I worked to make it in this country. I just hope she will grow into a decent human being and be kind to us parents as we grow older. I do have an UTMA account set up for our child, college fund as well. I figured, my child already has so many advantages:
- she was born in this country- so no need to go through immigration process that took me years
- she knows English- unlike my English ( that will never be perfect)
- she will already have our house if she wants to
- she lives in a great metropolitan DC area with plenty of jobs and opportunities ( unlike me coming from rural place in the middle of nowhere)
- she can start working or studying early on etc.
I also plan to show her the world through travelling; and show her my country where I came from, so she has some understanding how incredibly lucky she is.
I plan to cook, babysit and do similar things to help her out if needed in the future.[/quote]

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