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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I always find these posts very interesting - I wonder how many people were just not raised correctly?  Or just don't care?[/quote]

I find posts like this hurtful.  To me it implies neglect on the part of my parents, and I don't see it that way.  My parents both worked very long hours and I don't think they went to one dinner party the whole time we were growing up (and still don't). My mother has never written a thank you note in her life, and I just started doing it as an adult. It wasn't neglect, it was just the circle my parents socialized in -- it would have been seen as pretentious to do a thank you note after dinner with friends.

Of course these are all things I've had to learn since moving to the east coast, but again the implication that my parents just didn't care about good manners is wrong. [/quote]

I agree!  My parents never hosted a 'dinner party' but we did have people over to the house for meals.  No one ever brought anything (unless it was homegrown produce or something like that) and to have sent a written note after having said 'thank you' would have been incredibly pretentious.  We never opened presents at birthday parties (which would draw too much attention to what people spent or to the fact they couldn't afford a gift) and thank you cards were only sent to people who weren't present when you received their gift.  And yet, my parents and the people I grew up with some of the finest people I've ever met.  They are generous, polite, civil company and you couldn't ask for better friends or neighbors.  I think in this area people focus too much on being correct according to Emily Post instead of the character and intentions of people they socialize with.  There's not much I miss about where I grew up but this is one of them.[/quote]

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