Toggle navigation
Toggle navigation
Home
DCUM Forums
Nanny Forums
Events
About DCUM
Advertising
Search
Recent Topics
Hottest Topics
FAQs and Guidelines
Privacy Policy
Your current identity is: Anonymous
Login
Preview
Subject:
Forum Index
»
Family Relationships
Reply to "Help me untangle feelings about SIL"
Subject:
Emoticons
More smilies
Text Color:
Default
Dark Red
Red
Orange
Brown
Yellow
Green
Olive
Cyan
Blue
Dark Blue
Violet
White
Black
Font:
Very Small
Small
Normal
Big
Giant
Close Marks
[quote=Anonymous]You know what I dislike about gifts from certain older women in my life? They're always "assimilation-based," as in they are giving you something THEY like almost as a way to show you who THEY are, or prompt you to get something like that for them in the future. My MIL likes Vera Bradley and charm bracelets. I think both are tacky. If you met me even once, you would see from the way I dress/the bag I carry that that is not at all my style. So for her to keep giving me those types of gifts year after year--and no I don't wear or keep them--it's not about me. She's not trying to be thoughtful to me, she's trying to assimilate me. No thanks. Why would you get her a charm bracelet unless you know that's the kind of thing she likes? That's the kind of think YOU like. You are giving gifts because you are seeking attention and praise. Try giving gifts in ways that are helpful and useful to them. [/quote]
Options
Disable HTML in this message
Disable BB Code in this message
Disable smilies in this message
Review message
Search
Recent Topics
Hottest Topics
