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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would find it very annoying if someone 'advised' me how to play with my kid, unless I had asked for advice and ideas. You have a great game in mind? Feel free to engage and play with my child yourself.

Also, I don't like the people who shove an endless stream of gifts on you at every possible occasion, with the expectation that we should praise them for their 'generosity' and 'thoughtfulness' in return. [/quote]

I feel bad for the person who is wasting their kindness on you. Yeah, what a PITA to be gracious and say thank you, because it makes the other person feel good. Basic kindness is just so tiresome. [/quote]

PP you replied to here. Thanking someone or being polite is not the issue here.
When it comes to gift-giving then for me the line is there - is it about the receiver? Or is it about the giver? If the first, then any gift, big or small, is great and appreciated. But if it's the latter, then the feelings are more ambivalent, at the very least. Like someone said here - if you pathologically spend money on excessive amount of gifts to prove that you are the most kind and generous, then I happen to think it has little to do with being kind or even generous.[/quote]

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