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[quote=Anonymous]First, kudos OP for not falling down the easy rabbit hole of blaming the wife for your brother’s choices. Internet gold star.

Next, what is this “100%” of what your mother needs that you are doing? I gather she’s not elderly or infirm because you mentioned she would babysit if asked— so do you mean 100% of social/interpersonal needs? If so, you need to realize your mother is/was responsible for building a life for herself outside her children, and that children are not obligated to be their parents sole social life.  If she has recurring medical needs, though, you should just say “hey bro— mom has her scan on this date and this date and this date and I can only make the first one, what should we do about the other two?”

Lastly..you say your brother wants you to “act fake”. Is this something he has asked or an impression/pressure you’re feeling? If it’s the latter you can’t blame him until you talk to him about it because he may be wholly unaware.

Actually lastly (sorry) you blew off another poster suggesting there may be something in their history leading him to act this way. Do not blow off their possibility. Many, many MANY people have found out things about parents/relatives that their siblings knew and they did not. [/quote]

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