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[quote=Anonymous]I am the daughter of Chinese immigrants, and the Biggest issue was transportation in suburbia. My father worked overseas + my mom worked full time thirty minutes away.  I could never do get togethers after school because my lol would never be at pick-up (we went to after-school) and was worried about imposing on an American family if I were to stay four hours after school, especially because we couldn’t reciprocate.  I also did all the communication with my friends’ families- my mom was super self-conscious of her English, white parents seemed super nice, and on the most basic level (in the south), she had no idea how to address them.  Seriously, the one or two times we did this, there were protracted car negotiations about what we were supposed to call them, if we were supposed to bring a gift, if she was expected to come in...

All this to say- it’s not a matter of being more friendly. It’s about there being layers of social niceties in a “play date” that are Not Transparent at all.[/quote]

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