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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]diversity is very important to white Americans. not so much to other nationalities.[/quote]

That’s because the other families are the diversity [/quote]

Both of these raise interesting points.

In the current climate, it is a double-edged sword. While having a “diverse” group of friends does not prove that a white person or a white family is not racist, you do get the impression from whites that NOT having a “diverse” group of friends is problematic and fails to demonstrate a commitment to anti-racism. This odd approach feels to me like it desirable for whites (as is the case with OP) to demonstrate they are all in on diversity and anti-racism by “collecting” Diversity in their lives through building friendships with neighbors and making friends across cultures specifically for the purpose of reflecting that commitment. It’s an unsettling phenomenon to watch. I want my friends to like me and want to befriend me for our shared interests and ease of being together that hopefully has nothing to do with my country of origin or my complexion that may help improve their appeal as anti-racist. OPs approach seems well intentioned but feels comfortable inorganic. I don’t think it’s the immigrants’ problem to solve OPs “Lack of diversity crisis” in her relationships.
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Honestly, it just sounds like she’s trying to be nice. She is doing a friendly thing. Let’s not DCUM this.[/quote]

Maybe. But maybe it’s also a chance to educate nice American white lady about how her view of the world may not be the only or correct view. It’s a chance to allow OP to sit with her own discomfort and be okay with it. After all, not to point out the obvious, but that probably doesn’t happen that much in OP’s world.[/quote]

Ugh. Why “woke” is so hard to take seriously in a post.

She is literally just inviting people over. You know, being neighborly? She asked for tips on best way to do it. She is being nice. Can we ever let people be nice without attacking and shoving our role credentials in people’s faces? [/quote]

*woke credentials[/quote]

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