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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, first step here is I think you build support for yourself. Whatever ends up happening you will need strong support network. Get yourself into therapy ASAP. Take the time to speak to a few, have questions prepped. If you can meet 2x/week. Virtual is better than none. Please do this for yourself. You must care for yourself first and have a place to process the resentment to have a clearer mind and heart around decisions moving forward. [/quote]
OP here. Thank you. You’re totally right. I was in therapy for a while and then got discouraged because talking about the situation while also living it was actually making me feel worse. I’m looking into a new therapist. Maybe some CBT to help my intrusive resentful thoughts might help. Most days, I am a nose to the grindstone kind of person who just goes about life. Today is a tough day because of an occasion coming up.[/quote]

PP here. Yes, therapy can be emotionally messy because it brings forth that which you have packed away or put to the side so you can get through the day to day. Try and keep appointment days light schedule wise or schedule some free time before and after just to give yourself space to air out or rest. Take care. I know a lot of people on here are mentioning the word “fault”. That’s a tricky word word because it connotes blame. Sometimes what I think is more helpful is the words personal responsibility. There are certainly moments and opportunities where you have been personally responsible for your current situation. After all, we all consciously or unconsciously curate our lives. Therapy will be great for processing this in. I don’t see it as your “fault”. You may have unconsciously made decisions that furthered your current predicament. But all that will slowly and surely change as you bring things to consciousness and accept responsibility for your part in it (I really think no need for “fault” language. Things are hard enough as they are for all parties involved). I wish you the very best. I truly believe you will make it to the other side of this. Focus on yourself and wheee you can take responsibility and move forward. I truly believe you can get through this to feeling “free”.[/quote]

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