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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You need to reframe your way of thinking.

When your 1st child was born you did not know how to breasfeed, sleep train, deal with illness and fevers, teething... you had to learn all that. YOu bought books or watched videos or asked friend... or asked a therapist, this is not different

Just because you daughter is 17 does not mean you have all the answers and you never did.

Be prepared for your daughter to not "come out", maybe she will just introduce you to her girlfriend one day without some declaration, just like she would a boy.

Stop thinking that dating a girl is more complicated, it's not. You would be dealing with just as many issues if she were dating a boy... pregnancy, rape, verbal abuse, breakups, etc. She was not just going to magically find the greatest guy on earth the 1st guy she dated and everything was going to be peachy keen.

When she finally "comes out" or introduces you to her girlfriends I would just say this.

I have been leaning how to be a good mom since the moment you were born, I have been learning, how to breastfeed, sleep train, everything, and I'm still learning. Dating today is very different than when I was your age. Please be patient. The language is different and how dating works is different and we did not have social media.  You and I will be leaning all this together. Please be honest with me when I am not being the best mom because I really do want to learn and be the best mom I can be. I will try not to take it personally when you correct me and I hope you don't take it personally when I mess up. I love you and I'm just trying to grow and evolve every day, it never ends. I love you and I'm happy you found somebody that cares about you and make you feel special.

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Why in the world would you say all of that.  It is such a sign of disapproval.  I'm learning.  Dating is different.  That is the message that will be received.  [/quote]

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