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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So annoying. I'm sorry, and seriously, good for you. You are doing more than most, including me, would do.

At the same time, possible that they feel like they don't want to burden you (I think the same thing about the MIL who said, I am here to see the baby, not you). I.e., could they feel like they wanted to leave you off the hook for being entertaining while having a newborn, etc.?

At best misguided and probably your instinct is 100% on, and it's rude.  [/quote]

Why do we do this to each other, as women? WHY? It's like we try to gaslight each other to make it seem that shitty treatment isn't shitty treatment.

A MIL who won't "endure" two minutes of small talk from her DIL who is facilitating grandkid time doesn't give a fig about her DIL. Point blank period. Stop with your fiction and your excuses. Just stop.[/quote]

PP you are quoting. I swear I am not trying to gaslight - I'm trying to suggest the possibility that the benefit of the doubt or an alternative. And like I said, at best misguided and likely rude. But I know I have come across this way myself because of good intentions. [/quote]

The devil has enough advocates.

Really do stop. If someone literally doesn’t say hello to you when you are doing them a favor, that’s rude. If someone greets you and asks briefly about the weather, and you CUT THEM OFF to tell them you don’t want to talk to them, that is just rude! [/quote]

PP again - agreed, it's rude. That's why I put my first and last sentences, including the phrase, "it's rude." But suggesting that people may have misguided intentions is not inappropriate.[/quote][/quote]

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