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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For our high school junior son, we started with a sense of what's important for him. This is a parental perspective, to be honest he's not particularly focused on it. We then researched the hell out of schools to determine those that are a good fit. Sources of research: college website, U.S. News, Reddit, College Confidential, DCUM, Princeton Review, Common Data Set, etc. You'll have to use judgment for which information is relevant and truly reflective of the college. We hope to get some visits in, but we're not sure we'll be able to do as much as we would have liked.

After all this, we have a pecking order of 10 schools we like for him. He's trusting us on this process. He likely will apply Early Action to the top two of them (hoping to visit both in the months ahead). If he's accepted to either, we're done. Admittedly, we're not concerned about financial aid, which helps expedite things.[/quote]
So it sounds like you are doing it for him and will end up choosing for him. Has he said "what's important for him"? Not trying to be snarky here, as it's the boat I'll likely be in (I posted above about my HS junior). I am torn between doing all the leg work and applying or letting him graduate, realize he has no plan and that his friends have moved on (hopefully...), and then think about what kind of plan and school he really wants.  [/quote]
PP here. No, he really hasn't said what is important to him. If he did, it'd be wonderful. We'd take that and it would inform the research being done. I see other posts here saying the kid should be doing more. Nice sentiment, but not always applicable.[b] If the kid doesn't take the reins in this process, the argument is he's not ready for college? I don't buy that[/b].

Also, you've been with your kid for 17 years now. As a parent, do you really not have any clue what is important to your kid? If my kid expressed preferences, those would guide things. But if not, posters here shouldn't act like parents don't know their own kid.[/quote]
I'm not so sure of this. Speaking for my own DC, I think he'll be "academically" ready for college (taking 5 AP classes junior year), but I don't know that he'll be motivated to succeed or mature enough. He is very intelligent but not the typical DCUM gunner/striver driven by grades or the thought of top colleges. And no, I have no idea what is important for him in terms of a college, and neither does he. He "may" want to do study engineering. He enjoys playing sports, but I don't think he'll play them in college, and he likes hanging out with his friends. That's about it! [/quote]

DP: Our kids sound a lot alike! [/quote]

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