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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Girls are taught to be nice and always consider how what they do affects others' feelings.  They also worry about making mistakes when presenting facts and often caveat statements.  Men (often) bluster ahead without worry about making mistakes.  This is a setup for women to be vulnerable to gaslighting.

I think the most critical skill I can teach my daughters is [b]how to have hard conversations with people they care about.  [/b]I demonstrate how to do this in my interactions with them and with their dad (my husband).

I don't expect to be taken care of and treated like a queen.  I do expect to be respected and loved.  My husband and I are pretty equitable in our relationship and we talk about it when we are not.  [/quote]

Honestly, this is such a critical and valuable trait that is a cornerstone of a healthy relationship. Any type, romantic, platonic, familial, professional. So many people simply don’t have this capability without emotional pollution and/or defensiveness.

There is a way to be direct without being confrontational; to discuss things that make you uncomfortable without being made uncomfortable to discuss them. Love and respect requires this reciprocation to keep what is good consistent; to make strides towards a shared idealistic view.

People are lazy and insecure and it is difficult for them to be vulnerable and put in so much work for a personal reward they don’t value or understand. 
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