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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My wedding turned out ok, but my mom was so awful that it ruined it for me.

My parents are divorced and my mom was angry I invited my dad to my wedding.

So my mom tried to convince the entire family that I had been abusive to my mom and grandmother, and therefore nobody should attend my wedding.

So my wedding turned into this weird test of loyalty to my mother vs. Me, and like half my family didn’t attend (including my own sister, my mom, and my grandma). The half that did attend felt obviously uncomfortable and unsure about the whole thing.

Despite all of this, we went forward (we’d already paid everything and invites had gone out), and I for some reason held onto this weird hope that in the end, my mom would find a way to make it right and that she and the rest of my family would attend. I sort of could not get my brain or heart to believe what was happening and I really thought she’d fix things in the days and hours leading up to the wedding. I held onto this belief up until the moment I had to walk down the aisle. My sister was supposed to be my maid of honor and I also believed somehow she’d show up and be there for me. They didn’t.

My mom continued to threaten people who were planning to attend (like her siblings and my siblings) with being disinherited if they attended (mom and grandma are wealthy). In fact, all who attended were disinherited and the ones who boycotted were given cash payments. For one of my uncles this decision cost him several hundred thousand dollars. And I kind of think he regrets coming. I told him at the time it would be ok if he didn’t attend and that I understood. I kind of think he blames me for all of this somehow.

It’s been 8 years and it’s still not something I can laugh about or feel anything but sorrow.

I haven’t spoken to my mother since. My grandmother died a couple years ago and we never spoke again either.

I have reconnected with my sister but the hurt is still tremendous on my side, especially since she’s only given a cursory “I’m sorry, but....” kind of apology.[/quote]

This is just horrible. I can't imagine being put through all of that. [/quote]

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