Anonymous wrote:My wedding time was extremely stressful and traumatic. We were a mixed race-interfaith couple and neither set of families were happy about our union. We also did not have money for a wedding. We put something together last minute and it was stressful and just not fun. If I could do it over, I'd have just eloped.

Anonymous wrote:Same OP. Lots of family drama. I honestly wish we had eloped too. I was in tears (not of joy) on several occasions on my wedding day.

Anonymous wrote:Married 25 years ago and I can't remember being nervous about wedding planning- it was a nice wedding but I wasn't looking for "perfect". Now there are TV shows, social media, etc. that put so much pressure on couples getting married.

Anonymous wrote:My sister in law (brother's wife) gave a speech about how horrible my mother is. We tried to pass it off like she had been drinking but SIL was stone cold sober.

Anonymous wrote:My wedding turned out ok, but my mom was so awful that it ruined it for me.

My parents are divorced and my mom was angry I invited my dad to my wedding.

So my mom tried to convince the entire family that I had been abusive to my mom and grandmother, and therefore nobody should attend my wedding.

So my wedding turned into this weird test of loyalty to my mother vs. Me, and like half my family didn’t attend (including my own sister, my mom, and my grandma). The half that did attend felt obviously uncomfortable and unsure about the whole thing.

Despite all of this, we went forward (we’d already paid everything and invites had gone out), and I for some reason held onto this weird hope that in the end, my mom would find a way to make it right and that she and the rest of my family would attend. I sort of could not get my brain or heart to believe what was happening and I really thought she’d fix things in the days and hours leading up to the wedding. I held onto this belief up until the moment I had to walk down the aisle. My sister was supposed to be my maid of honor and I also believed somehow she’d show up and be there for me. They didn’t.

My mom continued to threaten people who were planning to attend (like her siblings and my siblings) with being disinherited if they attended (mom and grandma are wealthy). In fact, all who attended were disinherited and the ones who boycotted were given cash payments. For one of my uncles this decision cost him several hundred thousand dollars. And I kind of think he regrets coming. I told him at the time it would be ok if he didn’t attend and that I understood. I kind of think he blames me for all of this somehow.

It’s been 8 years and it’s still not something I can laugh about or feel anything but sorrow.

I haven’t spoken to my mother since. My grandmother died a couple years ago and we never spoke again either.

I have reconnected with my sister but the hurt is still tremendous on my side, especially since she’s only given a cursory “I’m sorry, but....” kind of apology.

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Anonymous wrote:I went to a wedding where the bride's grandmother literally dropped dead in the middle of the dance floor.

Alright, I think we have hit bottom and can shut the thread down. Wow. Doesn't get much worse than that.

It was so awful. She just fell over backwards like a tree, right on the dance floor. One of the guests had EMT training but she was unrevivable. They had all the guests go out into the foyer hall of the facility, and closed the doors until ambulance came and took her away.

I feel so had for the couple... I'm sure every wedding anniversary has a tinge of sadness due to Grandma's death, and every time someone brings up weddings in general.

Anonymous wrote:My wedding was far from perfect but I still have fond memories. All of the negative things about my wedding day were other people being lame, whether it was my mom refusing to take off her sunglasses for photos (really) or my boss having a tantrum at me in the middle of the reception.

Other people are wildcards, and big events like wedding sometimes bring out the worst in them. But at the end of the day (1) we got married, (2) most of our friends and family had a great time, and (3) we have a handful of lovely photos and memories. I no longer care about the rest and feel sorry for the people who were too up in their own heads to just enjoy a party someone else planned and paid for.

We never saw our limousine. It showed up but one the groomsmen commandered it. He used it to run an errand, we're not sure.

Are you still friends with him? What kind of errand did he run?

Anonymous wrote:My wedding was far from perfect but I still have fond memories. All of the negative things about my wedding day were other people being lame, whether it was my mom refusing to take off her sunglasses for photos (really) or my boss having a tantrum at me in the middle of the reception.

Other people are wildcards, and big events like wedding sometimes bring out the worst in them. But at the end of the day (1) we got married, (2) most of our friends and family had a great time, and (3) we have a handful of lovely photos and memories. I no longer care about the rest and feel sorry for the people who were too up in their own heads to just enjoy a party someone else planned and paid for.