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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Am I the only woman who would want to know that I was repulsing DH? [/quote]

Yep I’d love to know. Dh and I are in love. It would make me change things If I knew he was repulsed by my breath or weight or whatever. I’m not a sugar baby and don’t exist to please dh either. I’d tell him if something were an issue. We’ve been together 15 years too. I’d hate to find out the reason he didn’t want sex was something I could change. [/quote]

Yes! This is a much better way of saying what I did above. I trust DH to be gentle with my feelings, but I do want to please him! If there’s something he would prefer, and I can fix it, I want him to tell me. I won’t melt! And if I thought his request was unreasonable, I feel safe enough to say so. Good spouses don’t expect spouses to look 25 forever, but it’s fair to ask them to take care of themselves.[/quote]

Yes! Op doesn’t sound like a monster who is whining about small weight gain. I wish dh would tell me before our marriage falls apart or he wishes to divorce. My dh isn’t an ahole at all, but he was thrilled physically with my body when the baby weight was gone. He’d never said anything either. I wouldn’t be as nice though and wouldn’t be thrilled with a beer gut. [/quote]

The answer is for OP to work on himself such that he doesn't let weight gain lead to divorce. There's nothing inevitable about it. He's choosing make his resentment her problem when it's 100% his. You make a lifelong commitment, not "until I don't think you're hot anymore."[/quote]

OP needs to work on the relationship with his wife, not her weight. [b]The weight is a symptom of something else.[/b][/quote]

Yes, it's from eating extra calories. Not everyone who is overweight has emotional problems. [/quote]

Gosh. You ought to win a prize for your stellar insight. Yes, OP, forget about looking into why she overeats. See how well that works for your marriage.[/quote]

You know nothing about OP's wife, yet you assume she's eating her feelings because of assumptions you've made about her relationship. You're projecting.[/quote]

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