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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have sandwich generation rage. I feel this when crunched from both sides. Unlike the author though I have not needed to manage an urge to act out physically with my children, but I have absolutely been ashamed of angry I got when stressed out and I have needed to give myself a time out many times.[/quote]

Interesting you mention this because I had it for a while too. I had to cut back on work significantly for my SN child and appointments and to make life sane and I know many don't have that option. Recently I finally realized i had to do the same to handle the sandwich stress. After years and years. Keep in mind I am not the primary caregiver, but years of emergencies, bat shit crazy behavior, evaluations, calling doctors, dealing with an irrational parent and useless siblings who try to be backseat drivers and don't help other than visiting occasionally and expecting a standing ovation.....I finally decided I would lose my mind if I didn't cut back again. It is a thankless job, but I will tell you having been through it already with a parent and an inlaw, I feel totally at peace with the loss. I don't feel guilt. I absolutely did everything I could without losing my mind. I know they know we loved them. But yes, there was a lot of rage that would come especially when others seemed to have no understanding of the toll it takes.

Yes, I did not feel an urge ever to act out physically, but I did sometimes get short tempered with my children and had to step back and find ways to cope. I got therapy. Found my friends in the same boat and eventually decided I had to work less. Sorry to ramble.[/quote]

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