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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is op sorry for ghosting.  Kid stays home half day with me and then half day in a pod type arrangement.  So I feel like morning through lunch is all me, then I drive him to “school”, then I get home and have a few uninterrupted work hours, and then pick kid up again and figure out dinner.  Spouse breezes in from office like whatever.  And sometimes spouse wfh but just walks himself off in front of computer like he who cannot be disturbed.  [/quote]

OP, people are being pretty unkind to you. Your annoyance is valid. Yes other people are in worse situations, but this isn't a "who is worse off in the pandemic competition" cause there are plenty of folks who would clean up in that category with way worse problems.

Your husband isn't pulling his weight. He may not even notice it, cause he still gets his 8 hours of work per day, so he doesn't know how hard it is to only get 4 before kid goes to sleep--and be constantly interrupted, too. So, if you can, bring it up with him gently, and not in the moment. And say that when he's WFH, he handles lunch and then brings the kid to the pod/does pickup. And if he WOH, he needs to do X, Y, Z. (Maybe it's prep kid's and your lunch before he goes... maybe it's pick up kid on his way home, maybe he's responsible for all dinner planning and prep, idk). And maybe specify that he will WFH 2-3x/week so that he can do kid lunches/drop off/pick up.

And then (since he needs to contribute more generally), assign him OTHER tasks, too. Things he can do in the evening that you would be doing. Otherwise he's free to leave slack and you pick it up (cause hey, the dishes are in the sink and you can't just ignore them forever).[/quote]

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